Is It Weird to Go to a Bar Alone?

Have you ever seen movies or TV shows where one of the characters ends up going to a bar by themselves? Of course, we've all seen those scenes before. Someone once said that art imitates life, and that quote definitely applies to those scenes. There's all kinds of people in real life who spend time in bars by themselves. I've done it more than a few times, though I'm not a big drinker, so it's more like a once in a while thing for me. At first I thought it was kind of weird and awkward, but I saw other people doing it while I was there and eventually realized that it's completely normal. But the main thing I've noticed is that it depends on what type of a bar you're going to, and more importantly, what type of people frequent the place. There's all different kinds of bars, from sports bars, to regular neighborhood bars and pubs, to more fancy and upscale places in the heart of the city. So if you ask me if I think it's weird to go to a bar, I'd have to say "depends". It's only weird if the place you're going to is the type of place that caters to a certain group of people who aren't alone, like bars that cater to business people who have business meetings there. But these places are usually located inside large commercial buildings or in the general area. Any regular beer bar or sports bar would be completely normal to spend time in by yourself. In fact, sometimes it may even be better if you're alone and here's the main reasons why I say that.

Make Friends More Easily
People who go to bars alone are usually just looking to meet other people. It's not weird at all if you decide to go it alone because others will most likely be there alone as well. It's easier to make new friends when you're alone because you're more approachable and any conversation that takes place between you and a new person you meet will involve you. When with others, the people you're with might take over some of the conversation if you meet a new person or group of people. When it's a one-on-one conversation with a new person, you're able to cover more ground when it comes to getting to know each other quickly. Friendships and bonds can form quickly and before you know it, you have a new friend that you can call whenever you want to go out or meet up somewhere. So there are a lot of lonely people who go to bars to make friends, especially those who are new in town and don't know anybody yet.

Find Love
For those who go to bars to find love or romantic interests, you'll probably have a much better chance of hooking up with someone than you would if you're with others. Let's say you're a guy and you're going out to meet women at bars. Now imagine you've walked into the bar with your friend and there's a girl at the end of the bar sitting alone. If you go up and try to talk to her, she may feel uncomfortable because there's two guys and she's all alone. She might be worried that the two of you will take advantage of her once she leaves the bar, or she may not be as intimate or personal when talking to you if you're with your friend. Now let's pretend that you're a girl and you've just sat down at the bar, but you're with a few girlfriends and a few guy friends. Any single guys that see you sitting there in the group won't know if you're single or if any of the guys in your group are your boyfriend, so they probably won't feel comfortable approaching you. You're also more approachable when you're alone in most cases, because it's always awkward to be alone and have to approach someone who's in a group or with their friends. This is why singles bars are known for having only singles, and couples usually don't go to those types of bars. It's a way for single people to meet other single people, without the awkwardness that can arise when there's a group of people.

Sports Fans Meetup
Some bars, particularly sports bars, have things like sports games on the TV screens that many of the patrons like to watch. If you go to New York you'll find bars that are filled with nothing but NY Yankees fans. If you go to the England you'll see pubs that are packed with Manchester United fans. Many famous hooligan firms probably started out this way, with it's members meeting up in pubs in England before marching out to the games to support their teams. So in a way, bars can serve as a headquarters for sports fans who like to meet up with each other and discuss sports while watching the games. In these types of bars, it's probably more common to see people arrive alone than with friends. If you're a sports fan and like to have a good time with like-minded people, this is probably one of the best ways to meet others with the same interests (other than in online forums).

Bartenders Appreciate It
There's a lot of small bars where the bartenders work their shifts alone. They may not have anybody talk to because everybody sitting at the bar are in their own little groups or as couples and they're not paying any attention to the bartender. So what is the bartender to do in between people's orders when the bar is all stocked up and there's no work to do? See, when you visit smaller bars by yourself, you're usually not the only one in there who's alone. So in a way, you provide the bartender company by sitting and talking to them while you're waiting to meet others there. So in a way, you're doing a good deed and you may even make a good life-long friend in the process. In movies like Cocktail and TV shows like Cheers, there's always people sitting at the bar who come alone and end up having conversations with the bartenders there. Remember, they're people just like anybody else, so you might even end up exchanging numbers with them if you're both attracted to each other and you end up vibing with them.

The Downside
While it's definitely not strange to go to a bar alone, you should still be careful about how many times you do it. There's different types of drinkers in society, from social drinkers, to binge drinkers, to outright alcoholics. One of the main signs that a person is an alcoholic is when they drink just to get drunk. Social drinkers may go to bars to meet other people and socialize, but alcoholics will often spend hours in bars by themselves just to drink. When you get into this type of cycle of going to bars alone and leaving alone, it can easily lead into alcoholism because you may get used to drinking alone and will start to do it at home a lot as well. Before you know it, you've turned into a full-fledged alcoholic and you spend all your time drinking, both at home and at the pub.

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