How to Cure Social Awkwardness
Social Awkwardness, also known as Social Anxiety, is a mental illness that can be a frustrating disorder to deal with and sometimes even a crippling one. In mild cases, it can cause a person to be a little shy around others, and socialize less. In severe cases, it can cause a person to avoid all social interaction and live as a hermit, which often leads to it being misdiagnosed by doctors as OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) since they both share a few similar symptoms. Being able to talk to people and socialize should be an easy thing to do for most people, but for someone with Social Anxiety, it can be the biggest obstacle in their life. There's many reasons why somebody may develop S.A., but it's usually not genetic and people are not usually born with it. While it can be a very serious problem for many people, it is cureable in most cases and both natural and prescription cures are available for those who really want to get it under control. If you're suffering from this common disorder, medical treatment may be necessary, but not in every case. Most cases of S.A. can be cured naturally, without the need for any doctor's visits or prescription medications. Here's a few things you can do to try to cure your Social Anxiety.
Force Yourself Out
If you don't socialize much or if you live or work in isolation, this can definitely cause Social Anxiety. Social Anxiety often starts when a person has lost their skill to socialize. This can not only make it difficult to speak to others, but can cause a person to avoid social situations and become tense or stressed when around others. Social skills are just like any skill, they must be used every once in a while or you will lose them. For instance, if somebody is skillful at playing a guitar but stop playing for 10 years, they will still know how to play when they return to it, but they won't be quite as good and may have to practice again to sharpen their skills. So forcing yourself out and pushing yourself to socialize initially, can help you sharpen your social skills and help ease the overall tension you may feel when around people. It's best to just take it slow and increase your social interactions each day. Take a walk to the store and force yourself to say hello to everybody you pass. If you purchase something, maybe try to start up a conversation with the cashier if there is nobody behind you in line and they seem like they are in a good mood. If you can't think of something to talk about, maybe ask another employee about a certain product in the store. It's good to practice socializing with strangers in public settings, because even if you get nervous and have to leave, you will probably never have to see them again (assuming you don't shop at that store regularly or live in a very small town). Once you get used to this, you should go out to festivals or concerts where there are large crowds of people. Talking to strangers can be awkward, even for them. They may think you're weird, or you may make a new friend out of it. Either way, it doesn't matter, because if they are strangers, you will never have to see them again if it doesn't work out.
Changing your diet can cause some really positive changes and help you overcome your social anxiety. Diet can not only affect your appearance, such as your weight and skin, but can boost your energy levels and make you feel more outgoing. Eating a healthy diet with less red meat and saturated fats can also help clear up arteries so more oxygen can be delivered to your brain. This can help readjust neurons and hormones and cause you to feel more happy and positive about things. A negative person who is always down in the dumps and depressed is probably not going to be too social with people. There's been many studies that have linked an unhealthy diet to depression, and even more studies to correlate depression with anti-social behavior and anxiety. A healthy diet would include a balanced diet, with less sugary foods and more vegetables and fruits. An alkaline diet may even be beneficial to a person who's diet may normally be very acidic.
Improve Your Confidence
A huge factor in a person's ability to socialize and be around people, is confidence. Without confidence, you are more likely to be withdrawn and avoid being around people, especially those of the opposite sex. Other people can sense your confidence as well, so they may react to it. If you're talking to a person of the opposite sex, and they can sense that you aren't very confident, they may reject you or be rude. This type of experience can cause you to become further withdrawn and anti-social, fearing that the same scenario could happen again if you talk to others. When somebody comes off as confident, others often take notice and are more likely to socialize with that person, taking much of the work out of it for you. So it's best to make whatever you changes in your life or your appearance that you have to, in order to feel more confident about yourself. It could be anything, from the clothes you wear, to your weight, or even a new haircut. If you're not comfortable with yourself, you'll probably never be comfortable around other people.
As mentioned before, depression has been linked to all types of anxiety. But it's also been linked to stress, so lowering your stress may help lower your depression and relieve your overall symptoms. Stress can definitely make a person feel on-edge all the time, and this increased alertness and irritability can make a person feel more nervous around others or less friendly. Try to find hobbies that help lower stress, like exercise, yoga, or even painting or something that makes you feel relaxed. Taking hot baths and relaxing in them every day can definitely lower stress and make you feel better about yourself. Stress isn't just physical, but mental as well. So if you're always worrying about something or thinking hard about something, try to focus less on that specific thing and try to let your brain just go with the flow and stop thinking so hard about things.
See a Doctor
If you've tried everything else and nothing seems to work, then it may be time to throw in the white towel and see a doctor for your social anxiety. This should only be a last resort, because many doctors will prescribe you anxiety medications that can bring unwanted side effects or addiction. Some common prescription pills they would prescribe are xanax, klonopin, lorazepam, and clorazepam. These types of pills act as sedatives and can make you calm down, as well as make you feel very tired or relaxed. You will probably be directed to take them when symptoms present themselves, as they aren't very good for your body if you take them on a daily basis. They may even prescribe you anti-depressants such prozac or zoloft. Often times, doctors prescribe these medications assuming that your social anxiety is entirely caused by depression. Instead of looking for other causes of your S.A., or trying to treat your depression naturally, they find it's easier to just prescribe you these types of pills. I would avoid them unless you absolutely feel they are necessary. A person can develop a serious psychological addiction to these types of medications, so when you try to get off them, you may experience severe mood swings and suicidal thoughts. In fact, I would avoid any prescriptions, at least until after you've tried every other natural option available.
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